Proper?

I have written before about how, regardless of our intent, our appearance communicates a message to those around us.  And that message is defined by the culture in which we live.  Thus it is our responsibility to try to make that message as honest and accurate as possible. 
The question came to mind, what is the "proper, young man"?  What message is being communicated by the young man who looks "proper"?  There is a look that young men can carry that communicates a sense of proper and nice.  The kind of guy a parent would want to meet.  But what kind of person is that?
Coming from an Orthodox perspective, I would suggest that, while this "proper" look is not negative, it is contrary to the Orthodox faith.  "Proper" usually carries with it the attribute of "successful" in a worldly, temporal sense.  The American dream and the Protestant work ethic have created a culture that, albeit prosperous, is very worldly.  The proper, young man is very temporally focused.
So the next question, what does a spiritual minded Orthodox youth look like?  This is worth pondering, as we are raising up the next generation.  And the culture around is doing a very poor job.